Tuesday, April 14, 2009

I just know it's true! (for lack of a better title)

**I feel like before I begin this Post I need to add a disclaimer, like at the beginning of Law & Order. - No specific situation or person is the reason or main topic of this post. It is a composite of situations from my life**

Presume - to undertake without leave or clear justification

2 : to expect or assume especially with confidence

3 : to suppose to be true without proof

4 : to take for granted

Presumption - 2 a: an attitude or belief dictated by probability

b: the ground, reason, or evidence lending probability to a belief

3: a legal inference as to the existence or truth of a fact not certainly known that is drawn from the known or proved existence of some other fact

Do any of you presume things that you don't know are true? You belief them to be true based on feelings or emotions, but you do not have any hard evidence to support your theory, only feelings. I have to admit I have and do this alot, and lately God has been convicting me of what I should do about it. This happens in may different relationships; whether in your own home, say with your spouse, or extended family or in your church family, etc....

Scripture tells us to love one another, to forgive one another. It says this in
Colossians 3: 12-14:

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

So why is it that we do not go to each other with things that we may think, but are not sure is true? Isn't this where alot of issues become bigger then they really are? People are hurt by misunderstandings that were never fully investigated. Friendships are lost! Siblings never speak! Opportunities missed! All because we are afraid of that initial confrontation seeking truth! Isn't that what we should be searching for: TRUTH!

1 John 3:18-19

Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence

I love these verses in Proverbs:

Proverbs 12:16-18

A fool shows his annoyance at once,
but a prudent man overlooks an insult.
A truthful witness gives honest testimony,
but a false witness tells lies.
Reckless words pierce like a sword,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

and in 1 Corninthians 1:8-10

He will keep you strong to the end, so that you will be blameless on the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. God, who has called you into fellowship with his Son Jesus Christ our Lord, is faithful.
I appeal to you, brothers, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another so that there may be no divisions among you and that you may be perfectly united in mind and thought.

Where am I going with all this? I'm trying to understand what my role is in reconciliation. Whether perceived or real! I need to use the power of the risen Christ that is within me to restore broken relationships! Maybe they're not even broken at all, but there is some misunderstanding that is keeping a wall up between me and someone! I don't want walls! I know that! Whether with my husband or with anyone else! So God is challenging me to be a restorer of my relationships, not anyone elses! I need to practice Matthew 18 and go to the person who I have offended or I feel has offended me. Hard, OH YEAH! This so does not come naturally for me! I am an avoider to the inth degree! But again I want to be obedient. If God is calling me into the hard task of lovingly asking the question, then I must do it!

Proverbs 15:4

The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life,
but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.

I pray that my tongue will always bring healing to whomever I am in relationship with!


Mari said...

Good post Kim. It's so true and yet so hard.

Beth in NC said...

I pray God will give you an extra measure of mercy and compassion as you humble yourself with others. IF someone is walking in offense with you, your humility will break down those walls.

God bless you as you walk forward in His love.

Diane said...

I have recently become more aware of this in myself too. It's so hard to be obedient sometimes. But yet, that's what we need to strive for and also to seek His Will for us. The road may be hard at times... or MOST of the time... but the reward is greater than anything we've ever experienced! Thanks for posting - Great Post!

Xandra@Heart-of-Service said...

This is probably one of the hardest things to do as a Christian in our current society of relativism and post-modernism. We don't want to confront others (with the truth or otherwise) because we are told over and over again that "my truth doesn't have to your truth."

I applaud your willingness to be obedient in this, and I will be praying for you. This is something that I struggle with as well, so we'll persevere together!


Jennifer said...

This is great! I could make such a long comment on this but I don't have the time.
Sometimes, for me anyway, I find that it is just me. Mark will tell me to talk to the person about it and I ask him why. The other person has not sinned against me I just don't like what happened. It is my problem that I need to be either more flexible, forgiving, less easily annoyed, sometimes all of the above. LOL! That is where I have a hard time knowing when it is something that God is working on in me or do I need to get out of my "don't create waves" and tell the other person what is bothering me. Ugh. Life can be messy sometimes. I don't like messy.

Denise said...

Nice post dear.

e-Mom said...

You're a wonderful preacher lady! I love Proverbs 15:4. It reminds me of the Tree of Life in Revelation. God's Word brings Truth and healing. :~D