Friday, June 20, 2008

Is it Love or Infatuation?!

I love to read Ann Landers and columns like that. Mostly because I can't believe some of the questions people will ask! I always think don't they have anyone else to talk too?! Maybe not! Anyway many years ago, Saturday December 1, 1990 to be exact I read her column and to this day I have the column laminated and on my refrigerator. I saw it the other day and smiled thinking I think I need to post that, so here you go!

Is it Love or Infatuation?!
Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, on day at a time.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It give you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him near. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him."
Love says "Be patient. He is yours. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are in one another's company you are hoping it will end in intimacy. (pre marriage appropriate of course. My add)
Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he's cheating. Sometimes you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels your trust and it makes him even more trustworthy.
Infatuation might lead you to do things you'll regret later, but love never will.
Love lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person then you were before.
I hadn't yet met Steve when I read this. Actually we didn't meet until 4 years later. But I put this on my frig to remind myself of what I wanted out of life. I wanted LOVE! I wanted what this column mentioned. I didn't know when or if! I just know I didn't want to settle for infatuation! God blessed me with my forever friend in Steve! He is my best friend, and so much more! I am so grateful to God for him!
If you are single and reading this please know God has a plan! His plan is truly BEST and if you wait for His man or woman, you will find true love!


Anonymous said...

AMEN,Thanks Kim. Take care,Patty

Mari said...

I remember reading that column too. There's lots of truth in it.

Miss*Suzanne said...

Good Morning! :)

I love this!! Wow! It's beautiful.

Tonya said...

Hey there, Kim!

I wanted to drop you a note to let you know that I did post pictures of the tapestry. (I also went ahead and posted some pics of Brent's room)

It's been so long since I've been "blog hopping" and I've truly missed you guys! Oh, here's something neat... You posted on "love" and that's what our Bible study group has been studying on Wednesday nights. I love it when we get little reminders of what GOD's teaching us all through the week! =-)

Alrighty, I didn't mean to keep you. Thanks SO MUCH for the sweet words of encouragement. I've been so blessed getting to know you.

Denise said...

Thanks for sharing this.