there is no flaw in you.
Song of Solomon 4:7
I am one of those women who struggles with weight and acceptance. This is not a new thing, I think I've dealt with it on many levels for many years. I know there are many women who face the same struggles I do and very often feel discouraged and defeated because of it. I come from a family of 10 kids and we come in all shapes and sizes, and sometimes I compare myself to the taller, thinner ones, and say "why me".
Steve and I have been married now for almost 16 years. He has seen me through several diets, and encouraged me various ways as I struggled to lose the weight and then eventually gain it back. He has never made any kind of statement that has made me feel bad about my appearance. I do find at that all by myself. He has always just listened and tried to help me. But there is one thing he said to me a couple of years ago that has stuck with me and always makes me smile, and thank God for Steve.
One day I was complaining (again) about my weight and the struggle that it is to constantly be thinking about it, and what I should and shouldn't be eating. Saying that I was tried of the way I look, and just feeling down. Steve looked at me and said the most beautiful words that he ever could. He said "Kim, God made me addicted to you". WOW, God gave my husband eyes that even though physically I may not consider myself beautiful, he sees me as beautiful! I am continually amazed at the true gift that marriage can be. When two people become one, God gives them each a gift. One of my gifts and one of my husbands gifts is that "God made him addicted to me". He (Steve) loves me with a Godly passion. He sees me the way God wants him to see me!
So many women struggle with what I struggle with. It is one of those battles that I think about often and pray about. Wondering as Paul sometimes may have, why God doesn't take this thorn away. But what I have that many women sadly don't have is a husband that sees me as God sees me! Oh how I wish more men recognized how they would encourage and lift up their wives if only they opened their eyes to see what God sees!
Thank you Chrysalis for allowing me to join you and the other ladies in speaking of one aspect of Marriage that I treasure!